July 27th, 2014

Life has just got in the way (or how to overcome bullshit excuses for not living the life you want)

It’s been months since I last posted, and I don’t really have a decent excuse, except to say that life has rather got in the way of things.  It’s all too common for your life to get in the way of the things you want to do, which can make you incredibly miserable. There have been several occasions when I’ve taken stock of how things are going for me, quickly realising that bogged down in detail, planning and the things I’m unhappy with, I’ve not been doing enough of what I want to do, what I enjoy doing, and what I am good at. It is far easier to be stuck in an unhappy situation, moaning about how your life isn’t the way you want it to be, than it is to stand up and do something about it.

I’ve recently fallen victim to this trap, spending a lot of time waiting and wishing for the day when everything is ‘sorted’ , instead of appreciating and making the most of the life which I have now. Sure there are some things which aren’t exactly ideal; like the lack of a job and mixed emotions that have come from my time at university ending and the next chapter of my life beginning. There are a lot of good things too though, and even bigger and more importantly, there is possibility and opportunity.

Having come out of university with a 2:1 in Creative Writing, I look over my time in London so far and see just how far I’ve come, and how much I have achieved. However when that last deadline was met back in May, the last piece of work submitted and the last lecture attended, I began to subconsciously panic about the future. What’s next, and how is my life going to change now that the biggest part of it for the past four years is over? At time’s it has been a tangible, obvious fear, but often it’s just sitting in the back of my mind through everything I’m doing, like a sort of ominous ticking noise, subtly reminding me that the rest of my life has already started.

A lot of my friends have moved back home, if not permanently then at least for the summer, and the ones left mostly have jobs which obviously keep them busy. I am really happy for and supportive of all my friends in whatever they are doing with their lives, but it can be a little disconcerting to have everything you’ve become used to changing all at once. I’ve moved out of halls for the final time, after living there on and off throughout my entire time at uni. I love my new room, my house is great and so are my house-mates, but again it’s a complete change to what I was used to. I worked out that I’ve moved sixteen times in the past six years, and I’m getting to a stage where I’d like to be a little more settled. This house isn’t going to be a really long term thing, but I’ll stay here for a year or so if possible, and that’s enough time for me to begin building my life after uni. It’s been two months since the end of uni now, and I’ve been living here for one. I’ve had time to unpack, organise my room and start adjusting to this new way of life, now it’s time to get cracking and make things happen.

During the final year of my course I know I was pretty bad at keeping up with things which I wanted to do beyond my coursework from this blog, to editing my novel. I’ve also at times been rubbish at keeping in touch with, or giving time and attention to some of my valued friends. It’s easy to say ‘life got in the way’ but that’s not how I want to live. My friends, my writing and my other ideas and projects are the things which matter most to me, and therefore they shouldn’t come second to ‘life’, they should be an integral part of it.

Life isn’t measured only in the big things; your job or how much money you have or where you live. The everyday stuff, that we often take for granted, is what makes up a good life. The nights spent talking until the sun starts coming up, and the weekend trips to the beach. The coffee in bed every Sunday, shared with someone you love. The things that make you smile, and laugh, and feel like you belong somewhere, doing this, with these people. Those are the things which give you a good life, and I am making an effort to incorporate them into my day to day life as much as possible.

As always, for me it begins with and comes down to planning. Get a notebook. Write in it the five things which are most important to you in the world. It could be writing, or playing an instrument, or making people laugh, or your best friend. Just think of the things which you couldn’t live without, and would love to have in your life every day if it were possible. Use this as the list which guides you in your decisions. If you love painting, then find the time to paint whenever you can. If you have three cherished friends, and also really enjoy cooking, arrange to throw a dinner party once a month with them. If you put in the effort, you can have the life that you want.

My five things are as follows (in no particular order) :
1) My close friends
2) My boyfriend
3) Writing
4) Speaking out on things I’m passionate about
5) Good food

I will make time for all of these things, every week. I’m aiming to incorporate them into my life every single day, but we all have off days, and I know that if I set myself unrealistic goals and then don’t meet them, it will demotivate me to continue pursuing them. However the more mindfully I am aware of this list, the easier it will become to live a life full of the things which truly make me happy, until it is second nature. So stop making excuses now, life only gets in the way if you let it.


Tagged: career, dreams, education, friends, friendship, goals, growing up, life, life lessons, life plan, student, university, work

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July 8th, 2014
carriehopefletcher:

I love that feeling 

carriehopefletcher:

I love that feeling 

Find all of yourself before you try to love someone else, and let somebody else love you

Find all of yourself before you try to love someone else, and let somebody else love you

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June 25th, 2014
gotitforcheap:

craig chill out man

gotitforcheap:

craig chill out man

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wetheurban:

SPOTLIGHT: Modern Remakes of Famous Paintings

The amount of feels this post gives us! We all probably know these beloved Western art masterpieces, but not like this! Here are 20 great examples of classic paintings that have been reproduced creatively by a few very creative art lovers with photo cameras.

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May 6th, 2014
darklordflareon:

liongirl5:

dennys:

Flaphack #7: *Magically transform an old concert lanyard into a soothing pancake scented car freshener! 
*not actually magic

DENNY’S WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU EVEN DOING

denny’s has the best social media marketing team ever look at this look at itthey knew their restaurant was the equivalent of 3am nightblogging and they just went with it

darklordflareon:

liongirl5:

dennys:

Flaphack #7: *Magically transform an old concert lanyard into a soothing pancake scented car freshener! 

*not actually magic

DENNY’S WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU EVEN DOING

denny’s has the best social media marketing team ever look at this look at it

they knew their restaurant was the equivalent of 3am nightblogging and they just went with it

(via maidenpool)

livinghellcat:

sonlco:

alexicography:

Tibetan Mastiffs are apparently Pokemons.

10/10 would ride it into battle

This was on my list of dog breeds to collect but maybe I’ll take it off…

livinghellcat:

sonlco:

alexicography:

Tibetan Mastiffs are apparently Pokemons.

10/10 would ride it into battle

This was on my list of dog breeds to collect but maybe I’ll take it off…

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May 4th, 2014

this urn will turn you into a tree after you die

piddlefiggy:

rachelkiley:

spookypvssy:

wethinkwedream:

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and you can choose what kind of tree you want to become

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just imagine cemeteries looking like this

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life after death

THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WANT

this is how all cemeteries should look. its awkward to hug a gravestone. imagine hugging your grandma/tree. ugh rebuild all cemeteries

And then the trees get chopped down to make paper. And that paper gets made into books. Because we’re all just stories in the end.

Woah

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groovyviewbie:

flightlessbird-americananchor:

saucegay-uchyeehaw:

crosspin:

seblaine:

circletines:

IF YOU SAY THE WORD BATTERIES REALLY FAST IT SOUNDS LIKE YOURE SAYING “PARIS” IN A FRENCH ACCENT

WORD OF WARNING THIS ONLY WORKS IF YOU HAVE AN AMERICAN ACCENT IF NOT YOU WILL JUST SIT IN YOUR ROOM LIKE A KNOB SAYING BATTERIES

what in god’s name is a knob

cause

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what is going on in this post

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Funnily enough the banana is an accurate representation of a knob 

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itsnotmattespinosa:

luke-you-dirtypig:

sunshine-summer123:

yeahmicah:

dearolivejuice:

sobasicallysherlock:

inthedeereyes:






MEN OF TUMBLR I LOVE YOU





This just made my night. Thank you!!!!!!

I will always reblog this, it makes me laugh every time i see it

This made me smile

itsnotmattespinosa:

luke-you-dirtypig:

sunshine-summer123:

yeahmicah:

dearolivejuice:

sobasicallysherlock:

inthedeereyes:

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MEN OF TUMBLR I LOVE YOU

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ohstopityou


This just made my night. Thank you!!!!!!

I will always reblog this, it makes me laugh every time i see it

This made me smile

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May 3rd, 2014

Prince George’s First Royal Tour

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tuejjlaz:

howlsmoving-asshole:

howllor:

oh my godddddd there is a new swedish reality tv show where they are tracking down internet trolls and confronting them about the death threats they’ve sent to people, since it’s actually illegal.

watching them try to explain how it’s not them is the best entertainment i’ve ever seen.

this episode ended with them fining him 5000 SEK to be paid to the victim!

guess what America should do

What is this show called I need it in my life

(via dutchster)

Rachel recently lost the love of her life. This was someone that she was with in High School and thought she’d always be with. They broke up and she believed they would eventually find their way back to each other and they won’t. Then we have Quinn getting back with Puck, someone that she has a history with that started at McKinley, and Mercedes getting back with Sam, someone that she also has a history with that started at McKinley. They’re getting their second chance to make it right and that’s never going to happen for Rachel and Finn. It has to be painful for her to see that. (x)

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Will I be something?
Am I something?

And the answer comes:
You already are.
You always were.
And you still have time to be.